Children of ‘Rare Parents’ Give Me Hope

One of the first Lambert-Eaton myasthenic syndrome (LEMS) patients I had the pleasure of meeting in real life was Romy Braunstein.

Romy is taller than me, which is no small feat because I am pushing 6 feet. Her personality is larger than life, and her sense of humor has everyone in stitches wherever she goes. Romy is a living reminder that laughter is indeed the best medicine.

Romy never complains about her pace, which is dictated by LEMS. Instead, she focuses on telling a funny story, putting one foot in front of the other. Whenever someone gives her a questioning look, Romy says, “I’m built for comfort, not for speed.”

Romy is fiercely proud of her daughters. Helen and Zoe are in their 20s, but they frequently attend rare disease conferences with their mother. Helen is a nursing supervisor at a psychiatric hospital in Philadelphia and Zoe is a senior honors student at Arizona State University.

Zoe and Helen. (Photo by Zoe Braunstein)

I had the opportunity to attend last year’s RARE Patient Advocacy Summit. Over 750 rare disease patients gathered for educational sessions and networking. I spent time with LEMS patients, advocates, and their families, and also had the opportunity to meet Romy’s two beautiful daughters.

One of my conversations with Zoe was particularly eye-opening. After asking quite a few questions about LEMS, she said, “Dawn, it is so neat talking to you. Without even realizing it, you are telling me things about LEMS that I witness in my mother’s life every day. Other than my mother, you’re the first LEMS patient I’ve met.”

I realized at that moment why Romy’s daughters are so protective of her. They’ve never known anyone like her. They had no one to talk to other than their parents that could make sense of LEMS.

Zoe with her mom. (Courtesy of Romy Braunstein)

It must be hard for a child to understand the fluctuating nature of LEMS. However, Zoe and Helen are mature beyond their years. They’ve learned to weather the disease and predict when their mother will need them.

Helen with her mom. (Courtesy of Romy Braunstein)

Zoe and Helen are inspired by their mother’s determination. In fact, Zoe’s college essay was on Romy’s grit. She wrote, “My mother is living proof that it is possible to have a disability, to still be a successful person, and have a high quality of life. People associate disabilities with weakness, but in fact, my mother’s disability made her the strongest woman I know.”

As “rare parents,” it is easy to wonder what our children have missed out on because of our illness. However, as Zoe and Helen have shown us, our children are learning the greatest lesson of all: Life may not be fair or easy, but we can still thrive and make the most of what we have.

From left, Zoe, Romy, Helen, and Dawn. (Courtesy of Dawn DeBois)

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