I consider myself a pretty resilient person. My husband is in the U.S. Navy, and I can accommodate most situations.
For example, we have moved 10 times, three of them internationally. I have raised our kids without my husband during five deployments. We have grown our family despite multiple setbacks, including navigating a complex international adoption process. We traveled across the world to get our daughter, and then spent weeks in China to bring her home.
None of this compares to the stress of getting to the bottom of our daughter’s illness.
The Florida sun was suffocating as I walked what seemed like miles from the parking garage to the hospital. The previous night, I had driven five hours to the hospital with our 14-year-old daughter, Grace. We stayed at a nearby Ronald McDonald house.
It was our fourth trip in two months to see her specialists for more testing and hopefully a diagnosis. By that point, we were exhausted.
My blood pressure started to rise as I realized the walk from the parking garage to the hospital was too far for Grace to manage, due to her worsening Lambert-Eaton symptoms. I tried to drop her off at the hospital’s lobby, but staff said that because she’s a minor, I wasn’t allowed to leave her there alone.
My anxiety bubbled over as I pushed her wheelchair up a long ramp, my arms loaded down with book bags and lunch. Everything seemed so hard, and I felt alone.
We finally reached the hospital’s check-in desk, where the bubbly assistant, while signing us in, cheerfully asked, “What are you doing this summer?”
I wanted to scream: “This! This is what we are doing! We are trying to find out why my daughter can no longer walk, eat, or climb steps. What else would we be doing this summer?!”
I didn’t say that, of course. Instead, I slunk away from the counter feeling like a failure for being unable to maintain some semblance of normalcy. A family vacation was just one more thing I should have made happen but didn’t.
By that point, every bit of added stress was like an enormous boulder rolling toward me at breakneck speed. I was simply ready to burst.
That day, I realized I was grieving the life we previously had, and how it had changed with the onset of Grace’s symptoms.
I needed to acknowledge those feelings and grieve what we once had before I could accept our new normal. We were rising to the challenges placed before us, but not without grieving the loss.
Previously, I didn’t have a care in the world regarding my children’s health, beyond managing the flu or the common cold. Now, I had become overwrought with worry and concern.
Taking care of a child with a chronic illness takes some adjusting. Things we took for granted before, like running into the grocery store, dropping our kids off at school, or popping down to Disney for a day, now required careful planning and consideration.
Thankfully, I was surrounded by family and friends who showered us with support. Having my “anchor people,” those nearest and dearest to my heart, encouraged and strengthened me.
Time certainly lends perspective. In time, Grace received a diagnosis, and that led to a treatment plan. With time came healing, a restoration of activities, and better mobility.
Time doesn’t heal all wounds, of course, but it did create for us a new normal that is sustainable, healthy, and full of life-giving potential.
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