Why it makes a difference to meet others with LEMS in person

An MDA conference gives a teen some life-boosting introductions to her peers

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by Lori Dunham |

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Our daughter Grace is more than three years out from her diagnosis of Lambert-Eaton myasthenic syndrome (LEMS). Until now, we’ve never met anyone in person who has LEMS. We’ve had wonderful friendships develop through Facebook groups, Bionews forums, Zoom town halls, and phone calls. But it’s not the same as a live meeting with a LEMS patient.

Last week, for the first time, Grace was able to meet and spend time with two other people with LEMS. What a complete joy it was to meet them.

We were honored to be invited to represent the Lambert-Eaton LEMS Family Association at the Muscular Dystrophy Association’s MDA Clinical & Scientific Conference in Dallas. We knew these two other LEMS patients would also be there to spread awareness about the disease.

It was so encouraging to hear them talk with Grace. I knew they could understand the struggles she goes through. It warmed my heart to hear her say, “Yeah, I have that problem, too.” She’d never been able to say that or talk face to face about other aspects of LEMS to anyone with the disease. It helped her realize there are others just like her.

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Being a teenager with such an unknown and rare disease can be a lonely journey. These men showed her that she’s not alone. Grace thought it was great when each of them pulled out their pillboxes around midday, just as she does. She loved being able to see how they walk, which encouraged her to think that her own gait could continue to improve. She saw men who didn’t let this disease keep them at home. Instead, she saw them push through their physical struggles to accomplish their goals and live a full life.

There’s just something profoundly comforting to know you’re not alone — or in my case, to know my daughter is not alone. As a mother, I was so encouraged to know this LEMS community is able to support Grace in a way I can’t. Even though I try, I don’t completely understand what she goes through, or what it physically feels like to live with LEMS. Only fellow LEMS patients can completely understand.

Those living with LEMS cope with some serious struggles. I’ve written about intentionally finding the blessings that come with living with the disease because the struggles are real and at times overwhelming. Grace and I would agree that meeting these two new friends has been one of the best highlights of her time with LEMS.

I’d highly recommend seeking out the opportunity to meet with someone else in your part of the world who deals with LEMS as you do!


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Jessica avatar

Jessica

Hi Lori and Grace. I just read your bio and note that you live in Northern Florida... I live in Southern Alabama, close to the FL border and have been living with LEMS since 2009 (diagnosed in 2012). If you'd ever like to get together and discuss treatments or experiences, I spend a lot of time in Panama City and would be happy to meet.

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Lori Dunham

Oh we would love that. We moved here to Jacksonville from Panama City. We love it over there. When we get a chance to head that way, I'll definitely let you know!!!

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Debbie Eustace

Hi Lori, I just read your article on meeting others going through LEMS. My niece (40) was diagnosed officially in December 2023, however had various symptoms starting 5 years before the diagnosis. I do think it would be helpful for her to have some one-on-one time with someone who has had the disease longer that can share some of their experiences and emotions. Where do you recommend I look or whom to reach out to find a good match? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated. We recently moved from Dallas TX to upstate New York.

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